The Journey to a Little One to Call Our Own

One gal's experiences dealing with IF, pregnancy, the birth of our first son, parenthood, and doing it all over again with our second son... here is our journey.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

28 Weeks!

Ahhh... love Saturday mornings :) It's raining outside, but warm - very typical for Midwest, city weather in May - and I am sitting at my computer with a cup of warm oatmeal after Mr. D and I took our dog out for a walk. So peaceful. Mr. D is painting the nursery today. Baby's room will have light blue walls with the chocolate-brown-colored furniture (crib, dresser, another dresser/changing table, and chair). It's all so incredibly surreal.

How is it, that after 28 weeks of pregnancy, I still can't believe I am pregnant? Damn IF... it never, ever goes away. But, I know I am a way more sensitive person after experiencing IF. For example, when women at work start talking about my baby or how I am feeling (which is every day), it still feels weird to talk about it. It's not that I don't want to talk about it, I just get this weird sense of, "Hold your breath, Mrs. D... this could all be a dream." Once an IFer, always an IFer, I guess. Wouldn't want it any other way.

So, as I officially turn the page into my 3rd trimester (which I can not BELIEVE), here is my weekly recap:

Best Moment of the Week: When laying down, realizing that I can tell how he's positioned. Usually he has his butt above my belly button and head pointed down. I never understood how pregnant women could feel their stomach and say, "Oh, here's the head, and here's an arm!" But I get it now. I've formed such a fun bond with our little guy, and I guess I just came to learn how he likes to lay and position himself. I can try to explain it to Mr. D, but unless you feel it, it's hard to grasp. It's a fun bond between my little man and me :)

Entertaining Question/Comment of the Week: "Are you scared to give birth?" Okay, what kind of question is that?! Here's my answer: not at all. I have always been someone who doesn't worry or think about things that I can't control. Mr. D is different about this - he will sit and talk about "what if's" about anything and everything in life and it drives me CRAZY. With every situation in life, I could come up with at least 100 "if's"... none of which I care to think about, because I can't control the outcome. Labor/delivery is the same thing. Sure, I can learn and prepare my body as much as possible, but at the end of the day, this baby is going to have to come out of me somehow. Stressing out and getting scared about how it's going to happen is not my concern - that's why I have a fabulous OB :) Of course, I am sure it will hurt. But, after trying for over 2 years to welcome this little man to the world, I can do it. I know I can.

Obsessions: Food-wise, berries. Strawberries, blueberries, raspberries... whatever. They all sound great. Non-food-wise, getting the nursery situated.

What I am Most Looking Forward to This Week: Starting baby classes! Mr. D and I signed up for the 6-week series of Wednesday night classes. it was 6 consecutive weekly classes, or an entire weekend. We chose the 6-week series for two reasons. The first is completely selfish: spring/summer weekends in Minnesota are completely priceless. The weather is FINALLY beautiful and hot, and we spend most of them outside, on the lake, and busy with different get-togethers. It would be hard to commit to a whole summer weekend inside at a hospital. The second reason is because we really have NO idea what we are doing, and need as much time as possible to learn about how to prepare ourselves for this little guy to join us. The weekly sessions will ensure we have time to digest the material, come up with questions, and discuss what we've learned with each other. Wednesday is our first session!

What I Miss the Most: Sleeping. It's getting tougher to rotate in the middle of the night and stay on my side. I can't just sit up like I used to, either... I have to force myself up with my arms. It's not horrible, but I do miss the easy days of moving around in bed with ease.

Symptoms: Braxton Hicks contractions, leg cramps at night (NOT fun).


  1. time flies by...... i can't even believe you are in your 3rd trimester already!!
    i love that you are building a bond with baby D!!! hope we get to see a picture of the nursery when it is done!!
    thanks so much for your words and encouragment..... beta is friday... i won't be posting about beta until i am ready, as i think a couple people IRL have been reading my blog and i would rather tell them in person than have them find out on my blog...... sneaky friends of mine. :D

  2. Wow, the third trimester!!!! How amazing!
    Good luck with your baby classes!!!